The truth is:
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I will never forget the day it happened - in part because I was totally unprepared for the possibility that I was insignificant. I had been told to work hard, do well, and show up for important moments. No one ever told me that HOW I showed up would make the difference between being seen and heard, or being, well, invisible. Another person at the table who could just as easily have been somewhere else.
The messages girls and women receive about confidence, along with how to build it, are seriously messed up. Deep in your heart, you know confidence is the key to everything desirable, yet throughout your life you are bombarded with messages that try to convince you that you are pretty much screwed out of having enough confidence to make a difference. You want to feel empowered and confident, but it feels elusive and inaccessible. Like someone out there knows the secret, but they won’t tell you what it is.
The fear of judgment can be paralyzing, keeping us from doing amazing things. And, despite what people may tell you, it’s not easy to get over - unless you know where to start.
No matter how confident or happy people might seem to be, my work with women, girls and rising professionals has revealed a universal truth. At some point, most, if not all of us will doubt ourselves. I know I have.
I feel like an absolute failure. There is no light, no joy in this at all. It is hell. I stop for a week and hope no one notices. My shiny, brand new running shoes sit idle in my closet- taunting me. I kick one of them in response.
A lot of attention is focused on helping young professionals receive feedback- but what about those of us in leadership positions who could use some help with the way we GIVE feedback? Two suggestions make it much more likely that you will be heard, and your message actually received.
I like to win. I always have. Judge if you want, but if you are being honest, you know...